VLV-How Self-sabotage prevents you from achieving your dreams-Woman dealing with self-sabotage

Self-sabotage: how this prevents you from achieving the life of your dreams. This one is a great danger that some people face. It can get in the way of your goals. It has some direct negative effects. For instance, reducing your personal productivity and your time management. Self-sabotage affects your day-to-day and makes it hard to do the tasks you need to achieve your goals.

Many times people say that they are not able to achieve their goals or that they have abandoned a goal halfway. They say they have lost motivation and a long etcetera of similar reasons.

Has it ever happened to you?

Normally, the main obstacle is that you don’t know what you want to achieve. The rest of the time, the problem is simply you. You sabotage the path to your dreams and illusions due to some fear and that prevents you from achieving your goals. All this ends up causing the most common forms of self-sabotage.

The most common forms of self-sabotage

1. You don’t know your goals

The biggest reason for self-sabotage is not knowing your goals. You need to detail them in a clear and concrete way to facilitate your focus on them. That way, you can avoid self-sabotage.

You have plenty of reasons to focus your life on your dreams and achieve your goals. Having the life you want to have depends solely on you. Fighting for your wishes depends on you. And, of course, self-sabotage also depends on you. It depends on how you use your mind and how you behave in your day-to-day life.

It is normal for people to say that they will write down their goals later. Or, some say that having them in their heads is enough. Others even say that writing down your goals is silly.

The reality is that as soon as you do it, you realize how absurd it has been not to do it before. Today is a fantastic day to do it, don’t wait any longer.

2. Self-sabotage: We are excuse-making machines

“I’m just not ready.” “I don’t know any foreign languages, others are better.” “I’m not lucky.” “I am too old or too young.” “It’s just that the economy is very bad.” Those are just excuses!

There are people of all ages and conditions who achieve their goals every day. You must know that when you are interested in something, you can make time.

So let’s get down to business: How do you stop making excuses? Prioritizing your goals. Doing what needs to be done to achieve your goals and dreams should be your priority. And, above all, stop making excuses that you know are not going to get you anywhere.

3. The habit of multitasking

Multitasking is an unproductive habit by definition. It is based on starting many things and leaving them halfway. Or dedicating a lot of work and effort to a specific one, only to abandon it for another task.

This habit is very widespread because it makes you feel momentarily productive. It’s a false sensation of being busy, productive, and even, at times, decisive. The truth is, you are not really any of these things.

When I talk about leaving tasks halfway, it not only refers to personal things. It’s also about the professional area. If you want to leave a good line of work that could lead to a promotion or job, think twice. Make sure to evaluate your reasons. Don’t let self-sabotage shape your way of thinking.

The simplest and, unfortunately, the most common explanation is that your mind, in your inner dialogue, forges a type of limiting thinking. It can be similar to “if I don’t finish, I don’t face the possibility of failure, or of not being up to the task.” As you can see, your way of thinking marks your life, and also the fear of failure is very powerful.

The problem with multitasking is that it keeps you super busy, and you always have things to do (because everything is halfway done). This makes it so difficult for you to see clearly. If you stop this form of self-sabotage, you will discover a greater sense of accomplishment and personal fulfillment. Reach your goals and show yourself that you are more than capable. Realize that you are competent and that you can achieve everything when you set your mind to it. But know that you have to fight for your goals.

4. Self-sabotage: Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a big trap. Wanting to do everything perfectly will only lead to spending more time than necessary improving the same job over and over again. In the end, keep in mind that the only thing you will achieve is to have a job well done, which you had already managed to do. However, it will have a much higher time load than necessary.

Bottom line: Perfectionism takes time away from other things and reduces your personal productivity.

Perfectionism causes delays and fuels multitasking. So, for these reasons, it can cause you anxiety about wanting to finish quickly. Consequently, you will end up stressed out.

Solution: Relax a bit. Be clear about your goals. Describe them concretely and prepare an action plan to achieve them. You will see that the road is very fun. Being less stressed allows you to enjoy your work more. Perfectionism will not take you anywhere. The only thing that you’ll do is waste time, rack up your nerves and lose motivation. However, don’t confuse perfectionism with a job well done.

5. Postpone

Procrastinating or procrastination is one of the best examples of self-sabotage. This habit, well known throughout the world, is responsible for delaying and postponing tasks. Keep in mind that it is a  common cause for failure in a lot of people.

This way of working, living, and behaving inevitably leads to complacency and conformism. You end up comparing yourself with those who are worse off than you to reaffirm how well you are. Consequently, you do not define goals based on your dreams.

Where does it take you then? Nowhere good. It leads you to live in an increasingly reduced comfort zone and far from your dreams, not to mention personal frustration.

Unquestionably, people who really want to achieve their goals and fulfill their dreams should do their best to get rid of these bad habits. In this way, they can successfully achieve each of the goals that they set for themselves and become the people they really want to be.

Taking into account all of the above, the main requirement to end self-sabotage is that the person is aware of how their minds work. They must know what ideas about their identity have been repeated throughout their life. This way, you can start modifying them, so they don’t get in the way of your success.

Likewise, it is necessary to be aware that, despite the fact that there are hundreds of circumstances that can condition our successes or failures, the persons themselves are responsible for their decisions. Especially for those decisions that end up becoming self-sabotage.

Once these beliefs are recognized and with the appropriate motivation to change them, the person can begin to carry out a series of good habits that prevent them from relapsing into self-sabotage.

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