To be a great leader you need to be a great communicator

Whether you are leading a team, a big organization or a company, you need to be an effective communicator, as otherwise your message will be lost.


To do so, you need to communicate clearly and in a confident tone: if you are unsure, or hesitate, if you keep saying things like ‘well, you know’, or ‘hmmm’ , or you look down, you will not be able to convey a strong message. 


You need to pay attention to your audience. Leaders know who they are and adapt their language/expressions they use to them, they adjust the speed of their speech. They prepare. They practice, rehearse. Record yourself on video and see if there are specific gestures you do you shouldn’t, if you look nervous etc. 


Being a great communicator also means being a great listener. Leaders are curious and know they don’t know everything. They are open to feedback and listen to suggestions. 


For the ladies, some additional tips:

  • Stop using ‘diminishing’ words such as ‘I’m sorry’, ‘maybe’, ‘just’..
  • Often underestimate themselves; it’s all in your head!!! Nobody knows what you’re going to say or if you forgot to say something
  • Dress. Try to match your style with that of your audience. In doubt, dress up a bit (instead of down). And try not to wear too much makeup or too much jewelry. In this case, less is more, You want your audience to focus on your message, not to be distracted by something you wear


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Leaders are confident

In my previous 2 posts, I shared a few characteristics of great leaders.


One other important thing they all have in common is confidence.


To be a great leader you need to be confident in your actions AND in your message. 

What do leaders do? Well…


  • Great leaders lead by example. They are not afraid to take risks. They know that they can never fail but that there is always a lesson to learn.
  • Leaders are not afraid to make decisions. Once they have gathered feedback and received the information/data they need, they are not hesitant and decide what they think makes sense/is best for their team or organization.
  • They believe in themselves

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Most important characteristic of great leaders

My previous post on Leadership as part of the 10Tips10Days challenge went over some of the characteristics of great leaders (https://lnkd.in/g8DrQgi)

One thing I did not mention, and to me the most important characteristic for leaders, is emotional intelligence (Tip2)

Watch my video to find out about what emotional intelligent leaders do! 😉

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Effective leadership is not the exclusive domain of men or women

Effective leadership is not the exclusive domain of men or women!

When we talk about ‘leaders’, we often think of men first: Martin Luther King, Gandhi, Napoleon, Roosevelt, Churchill, the Dalai Lama, Warren Buffet, Jeff Bezos, etc.


However, there have been and there ARE also many women leaders: Oprah Winfrey, Angela Merkel, Amelia Earheart, Coco Chanel, Christine Lagarde, Serena Williams, Marie Curie, etc.


What is interesting is this.

All of these people share some common traits:

  • They had/have a vision/goal in mind
  • All of them were/are focused 
  • They inspire(d)
  • Theae leaders stay(ed) positive
  • They took/take risks
  • Each and everyone of them made/make mistakes
  • They believe(d) in themselves


I said it earlier: Effective leadership  is not the exclusive domain of men or women.  

Women usually have a different leadership style than men. Each gender has its own strengths and areas of improvement. 

However, both genders can learn from each other. 

In the next few weeks, I’ll share some tips about leadership with specific tips for all the women out there. 

Watch the full video on Linkedin or on https://virginielemay.fyi.to/home/view


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How sport benefit women’s leadership

Sport and leadership: what is the link?

Well, we all have seen or read many articles regarding women leadership. Many of these articles provide advice to women. From getting a mentor, to networking, all these articles explain what women should do to climb the corporate ladder. 


I came across this article and wanted to share it. I thought it offers something I had never seen before: How sport / athletic hobbies benefit women’s leadership….




What do you think?


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World Day for Cultural Diversity, for Dialogue and Development.

Today, 21st May, is World Day for Cultural Diversity, for Dialogue and Development.

to show how diversity can be embraced, I wanted to post this picture as a demonstration…

This picture was taken the 1st time I went to work in India. I had been hired to set up a team in India and my first trip brought me to Chennai, where I met my team members.

Because I did not know if I would come back, I decided to stay over for the weekend. I wanted to learn more about the country,. My colleagues were kind enough to show me around and bring me to places I probably would not have seen on my own. 

Since I was in India, I wanted to ‘fit in’. I wanted to show that I was embracing the culture. I therefore decided to dress with Indian clothes.

My female colleague wanted to make me feel comfortable in India and decided to wear Western clothes. When we saw each other, we laughed. We thought ‘great minds think alike’. This allowed us to appreciate and respect each other even more.

Not everything is what it seems…

The strangest thing happened afterwards when we were visiting places. Some Indian people were praising me for wearing Indian clothes while they were blaming my Indian colleague for wearing western clothes!

I was surprised by both types of comments. But there are 2 lessons here to take:

– By embracing diversity, we not only learn about people from other backgrounds, nationalities or cultures. We also gain wonderful experiences that open our minds even more.

– Perception can be deceiving. We should never judge people by the way they look or by why they do certain things. There’s always a reason behind it…

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My YouTube Channel and Instagram

Starting your own online business is not easy. There are tons of information out there, on what you should do to become visible and attract customers: be present on Facebook, Linkedin, Youtube, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, etc., write articles, make videos, share pictures or a post, write a book… It’s all overwhelming.

In addition, since you are brand new in the ‘game’, you feel unsure about what to post. Does it need to be only business related? Or can you also share more personal stories?  How long does it need to be? Will you have enough creativity, enough content to show your potential customers? How do your potential customers find you?  What if someone does not like what you wrote? 

All of these feelings and questions ran through my head. Until one day, I decided to write one article,,, And another one. Then, I also started to share some posts with some pictures, mentioning things that were resonating with me… Two of my good friends, who are also coaches, then challenged me and that is how I started with videos!! A challenge called #10Tips10Days had been launched, where everyone who participated had to share some tips in the area they were familiar with… Even though I was first scared, not really sure what to post, I decided to accept this challenge.

So this is how it all started. I started posting videos on Linkedin and on Facebook. Then someone suggested I should  try to use Instagram, as a lot of people were watching videos there. So I did, I created my Instagram account. And because I wanted to make sure people could watch my videos, even if they were not connected with me on Linkedin or Facebook, I decided to start my own  YouTube Channel!  

So stay tuned and subscribe! I promise, there is more to come…