Some dates we never forget…

Some dates are always ‘special’ to us and we never forget them… These dates are the milestones in our life that remind us we are alive.

For me, this special date was yesterday, 14th August.

 

Many years ago, I had a terrible car accident.

I had to lie in bed for 6 weeks without being able to get up or even sit down

Then I ended up in a wheelchair 

And had to learn to walk again like a baby.

 

It stayed a total of 3 months in the hospital

And it took me a total of 9 months before I could get a normal life.

 

Doctors thought I would be paralysed

Then they told me I would probably limp

And did not allow me to wear high heels any more.

 

A few years later, I learned to dance salsa

And it saved me!

 

I now dance at an advanced level with high heels 😊💃🏽

 

I wrote a book to share my story, to help and inspire people who may be in a similar situation

 

The name of my book is ‘My revenge on life’ (or ‘Ma revanche sur la vie’ in French). The books are available on all Amazon marketplaces (for US: English version, for French version / version francaise)

 

The lessons from my story are the following…

 

Whatever the circumstances

Never give up❗️

Believe in yourself ❗️

There is always light at the end of the tunnel

This post was also shared on Linkedin.

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Breaking stereotypes

We should never judge a book by its cover, nor a person by his/her own appearance. Yet, we all have many stereotypes in our head, many bias that we should not have…

How often do we think ‘This person cannot do this!’ or ‘This is impossible, he/she will never be able to reach this goal!’

Audrey Hepburn said it: ‘Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’! 


This video is another  proof….

 

Whatever people tell you

Believe in yourself

Work hard

And never give up!

 

⭐️ As Amanda LaCount says it in this video: “If you love it, DO IT!” ⭐️

 

A short version of this post was posted on Linkedin.

#vlvcoach #leadership #nevergiveup #mindset #believeinyourself

 

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Relax and recharge once in a while!

For 10 days, I took a break from social media to relax and recharge my batteries. This explains why I have not been much on internet lately. I needed to forget everything, focus on something else and re-energize.

And what better way to do this than attending the biggest Salsa/Bachata Festival of the world in Croatia in Rovinj (also refered to as the Summer Sensual Days and Croatian Summer Salsa Festival)! 💃🏽

I love dancing salsa (and bachata) 😊

Dancing is one of my passions.

It is my workout, my emotional and physical stress relief.

It also allows me to connect with people in a different way. One more reason why I love so much dancing salsa is the diversity of people I meet.

During 10 days, I danced days and nights with people from all over the world: China, South Africa, Serbia, Norway, Sweden, Poland, UK, US, Canada, Mexico, Peru, France, Belgium, the Netherlands, Germany, Italy, New Zealand, India, Suriname, etc.

We all had one common language and one shared passion: dancing. It is truly a universal language.

Salsa in Rovinj

I’m now back all refreshed and ready to tackle the second half of 2019 😉

My advice to you all: Do not forget to take a break once in a while to relax and recharge your batteries!

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One year ago: My revenge on life

Exactly one year ago, I published my book ‘My revenge on life’ (‘Ma revanche sur la vie’ in French) on all Amazon marketplaces.

It tells my story, the story of the serious car accident I had 20 years ago, how I spent 3 months in the hospital, with all the doctors thinking I would be paralysed, and how I recovered…

This book has been quite an adventure:

– It took me years to write/finish it

– I struggled with getting it ready to publish

– I did not market it as much as I should have

And no:

– It did not become a bestseller

– I did not write it to become rich

I wrote this book mainly to inspire and help others, who may be in similar circomstances. My goal is to bring hope to people who are in what seems a desperate situation, and to let them know that there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

Would I do anything different when I write another book?

Yes!

But I am proud of what I have accomplished. It’s been a great learning experience and the book is now there ‘forever’.

If you have already bought the book, or plan to buy it, please do not hesitate to leave a review on Amazon. I would really appreciate! 🙏🏽

#vlvcoach #inspiration #motivation

What my burnout taught me…

Even though I would not ever want to be back in this situation, I am grateful I had a burnout and that it happened to me as it gave me a very valuable lesson: to make time for myself.

How often do we say we do not have time?

How often do we disregard the signs our body is giving, thinking that ‘it’s just a phase’ or ‘it will be over soon’.

I learned to not only listen to my body,

But also to take time for myself to recharge my batteries.

If you’re watching TV in the evening, stop watching, even for one hour.

And if you’re not watching TV, because you just don’t have time,

What about starting your day one hour earlier?

Think of what you could do with that one hour:

✅ Read a book

✅ Exercise or go for a walk

✅ Learn something new

✅ Meditate/pray

✅ Or spend more time with your family

One hour per day = 365 hours per year!

❓❓❓ Have you ever thought of what you could accomplish with these hours❓❓❓

These hours can be YOURS and YOURS only

So that you can really

✅ Fill in your ‘energy tank’

✅ Feel better

✅ Be healthier…

#vlvcoach #inspiration #personaldevelopment

 

A few years ago, I had a burn out

A few years ago, I had a burn out

Not so much because I was working long hours

But more because I was doing a job I really did not like

I was always afraid to make mistakes,

To make the wrong decision which may cost a lot of money

After a few months/years, I had the impression my brain was not functioning properly

I was more & more tired, getting frequent headaches

I remember standing twice in front of my computer

Having a blackout: I could not remember what I was supposed to do next

The more stressed I was, the less I could sleep & the more tired I became

Because I could not sleep, I no longer went to dance, which was usually my stress relief

And because I was not releasing my stress,

I could no longer sleep properly to recharge my batteries

I was in a downwards spiral and did not seem to be able to get out of it 😔

So I had to break the circle 💥

I stopped working for 2 months

Tried to relax, sleep, exercise and go to dance again 💃🏽

Then I started to work part time, till I could work full time.

What this taught me is:

‼️ LISTEN TO YOUR BODY & THE SIGNS IT GIVES YOU

‼️ Do not wait till it’s too late

‼️ We only have ONE health

⭐️ OUR HEALTH IS OUR WEALTH ⭐️

 

#vlvcoach #mentalhealth

 

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To BE list

I saw a video in which one sentence really resonated with me:

‘Don’t keep a daily to do list. Keep a daily TO BE list’

How powerful is that???

✅ Be grateful
✅ Be positive
✅ Be happy
✅ Be curious
✅ Be open minded
✅ Be mindful
✅ Be respectful
✅ Be and live your life to the fullest
✅ Be and breathe

And I can think of many others…

What would your ‘to be’ list look like?

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How something broken can be a good thing

I saw a presentation about ‘kintsugi’. Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with lacquer mixed with powdered gold, silver, or platinum. As a philosophy, it treats breakage and repair as part of the history of an object, rather than something to disguise (wikipedia).

This made me think of French artist, Bruno Catalano, mostly renown for creating sculptures of figures with substantial sections missing. In 2004, Catalano noticed a flaw in one of his characters. This prompted him to dig and hollow out the chest. To his surprise, this frail character was the first to be sold at his stand. From then on, the rest became history. Famous galleries contacted him and ordered his sculptures. He now sells around the world.

What stands out is that he turned this mishap into an advantage. These hollow sculptures are now his ‘signature’.

So, what does it have to do with you?

These two examples just show that something broken does not necessarily mean something bad, and that you can turn things around…

We all have our ‘flaws’, nobody is perfect, and that is what makes us unique! That is what makes you YOU!

So, embrace your ‘flaws’! Use them and turn them to your advantage, because what you may see as a weakness can actually become your greatest strength!

 

What does it mean to be courageous?

Courageous, a word we do not often use or hear…

In my life, I’ve been told 5 times I was being courageous. One of the last time was in 2017.

I was working for Amazon, having a job that I really loved, with a great team and wonderful colleagues. I decided to resign because my husband and myself wanted to travel. Some of my colleagues told me I was being courageous. I did not think I was, but one told me: ‘Yes, you are courageous: you dare to take a decision I also would love to take but do not dare to’.

Was it an easy decision?

Not at all, it was probably one of the toughest decisions I made.

Do I regret it?

No! I not only got to travel around the world, but most importantly, I found my life purpose! Helping expats and professionals working in international organizations has always been something I’ve done, but now that I am conscious of it, that I have a goal and that I am focusing on it, I have never been more excited and more positive in my life!

To all of you out there:

Dare to take bold decisions!

Dare to take a leap of faith!

Nobody has walked in your shoes,

Nobody has had your life

Nobody is YOU…


Be courageous!

You just never know what’s around the corner…

How would you like to look back at your life from your 80th birthday?

The meaning of life is to find your gift.
The purpose of life is to give it away.
– Pablo Picasso –

How would you like to look back at your life from your 80th birthday?

Have you ever asked yourself that question?

It’s definitely not an easy one to answer. It may take days, weeks or even months before you are able to answer that question…

Maybe you have a general idea but do not know the specifics. 

Maybe you’d like to still  be looking ahead. You’d still like to have plans for 10, 20 years. still wanting to experience and learn new things.

Or maybe you have absolutely no clue. You’ve never ever thought of this question before….

So why is it important to ask such a question? Why does it matter? 

Well, once in a while, we should ask ourselves this question to find out what is our purpose in life or to make sure we are still working towards it….  We were all put on earth for a reason… Some people know their purpose early in life, some others will need years to discover… and some other never will.

Knowing what you would like to have achieved, what you would like to be proud of will help you throughout your life: 

– It first will give you a vision, from which you can start and work backwards. You then will be able to set long, medium and short term goals, that you can in turn break down further in smaller milestones. 

– You then will be able to find out what you should focus on, what skills or habits you should acquire and what you need to let go… If you want to be known for having run (or won) a marathon, maybe you first need to learn how to run on a regular basis, maybe you need to eat healthier or make some changes to your nutrition. And maybe you need to stop smoking once and for all…

– Finally, this will also help you focus on the right things, put the priority on things or people you care about and forget about all the other minor issues you have in your life. 

Jeff Bezos once said: “When you think about the things that you will regret when you’re 80, they’re almost always the things that you did not do. They’re acts of omission. Very rarely are you going to regret something that you did that failed and didn’t work or whatever” 

So, take a moment and ask yourself: How would you like to look back from your 80th birthday?